Ditch The Dolls, Girls Deserve Better Toys

As I was in the middle of a rough Tabata session today, the instructor brought up dolls, and I realized, our girls deserve better toys.  She said she never let her mother buy her daughter those American Girl dolls… and then I was too busy doing kegel exercises in between jumping jacks to hear the rest.  As I was surrounded by women, of all shapes and sizes, lots of mothers, college students, young and old, I realized that the dolls of my youth, did a terrible job of representing my worth as a woman.

As I left Tabata, red faced and drenched with sweat, I felt like a strong, sexy woman.  I didn’t care if my makeup was running, because I didn’t have any on.  I didn’t care that I had armpit stubble every time I went up for an extension. I didn’t care that my chub roll showed each time I sat down, or that my sports bra did a terrible job of hiding my back fat.  I didn’t even care that through the smell of sweat, I detected a faint smell of urine (must do more kegels).

I was the complete opposite of any perfect little girly, girl doll of my youth and yet I felt strong, empowered, and beautiful.  Fuck you, Barbie.  Thanks to you, (and other pink plastic toys) it took me 36 years to get over the definition of feminine in my own head.  In that moment, walking out of the gym in all my glory, I was the definition of woman.  

It’s no wonder that my daughters have never played with Barbie dolls or owned any doll that eats, pees, poops, cries, farts, or whines.  A relative bought them each an American Girls Dolls and they sat in a stuffed animal bin until their blonde silky hair got matted and I gave them away.  Rag dolls and porcelain dolls creep me out, almost as much as a Barbie Doll with a 3 inch thigh gap. These types of dolls serve no purpose in raising self sufficient girls.  

I’d rather my daughters have a doll with dirt on her face.  One who drives her own truck, rather than ride shotgun in a convertible.  I want the dirt to come from fixing her own flat tire and thick, beautiful thighs to show she lifted that truck tire into her flatbed by herself.

A girl needs a set of weights in addition to a kitchen set so she can not only learn to cook her own healthy meals, but build the muscle to become strong.

Instead of a princess castle, she needs a tool set.  The pallet crafts of today, will be tomorrow’s home repairs, making her more independent and empowered.

If you still need to get her dolls, ditch the high fashion outfits and tutus, and buy female dolls dressed like professionals, doctors or scientists.  These are positive images that will inspire them into these careers as they get older.

Pretend play is important, just make sure your kids have a lot of options.  We had a dress up bin that contained princess dresses, but it also had everyday hero costumes like a firefighter, super heroes and professional costumes, like a veterinarian.

Whether you subconsciously buy the same toys you played with as a kid, or you think you’re doing what every other parent does, stop and think of it’s purpose and most importantly, it’s message. Paint the image you want your children to see, don’t let others control that.  


Holiday time is coming! Please consider buying purposeful gifts this year.  If you need toy ideas, click on the red hyper links in the text.  It will bring you to samples through my Amazon account.

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3 Month Transformation Programs That Will Make You Love Exercise

Hello, my name is Lisa and I’m an expertly flawed binge exerciser.  I have discovered that I only last about 3 months in any given workout routine.  Then, just after I see results, I stop and eventually end up trying something else.  

My flaws can hopefully serve some use to those of you looking for a way to transform yourself for a wedding, vacation, or just because you want to start feeling and looking healthy.

First, let’s clear up some misconceptions:

  1. You do have enough time and money for your workout.  Stop prioritizing yourself last.
  2. Your house, your kids, and your job won’t miss you too badly AND you’ll have more energy to handle them all when you’re done with your workout.
  3. You are strong enough and nobody is going to judge you (stop being so critical of yourself).

I lie to myself all the time and end up talking myself out of the gym a lot.  If only I could be more like my husband.  He makes the gym a priority every single day.  He’s up at 4am making egg whites & protein shakes so that he can hit the weights before the kids are up.    

I, on the other hand, HATE working out!  You may have read my dysfunctional gym behavior post that described how it all began… In the 80’s with leotards and leg warmers.  

Sweating, touching germy equipment, being watched by other people, were all things that kept my story alive, exercise is not my friend.  

Now that I’m fully immersed into my 30’s, exercise has to be my friend.  If I go more than a couple months without it, my mid section shows nostalgia for my past pregnancies and becomes a digestive nightmare.  After a weekend of eating out, my face swells up like Rocky after 10 rounds.  My butt, which had always been a source of pride, sinks, and saddle bags grow as a last stitch effort to hold up my droopy cheeks.  My arms grow dimples and I wear more clothes than needed, especially to the beach.

 

In the past, all I needed was a little yoga and healthier eating, but the dreaded thirty’s have brought the gift of slow metabolism and stubborn muscle memory.  If only I was as “fat” now as I thought I was in my 20’s.

 I met my husband just after my 30th birthday.  I had just gotten divorced and was raising 3 girls on my own.  Stress, not a healthy lifestyle made me super skinny back then.  Two years later, I was planning a wedding and was noticing that if I wasn’t careful, I wasn’t going to fit in my dress. 

3 Months of personal training before my wedding

Benefits of personal training:

  1.  You are working one-on-one with a trainer who can answer any questions or address any problems you’re having.
  2. You are held accountable since each week you are weighed and measured.
  3. You are shown the right way to do exercises and taught ones that are most effective for your areas.
  4. Finally, you realize just what your body could do.  He/she will push you beyond what you would normally do yourself.

Cost was around $90 per month for 3 days a week.  My personal trainer gave me a meal plan that included clean, non processed meal ideas and recipes.

Final result, I lost a total of 16 pounds in 3 months.

After the wedding, my husband and I spent a year enjoying the married life.  I tried to watch what I ate and continued the exercises I learned from my trainer, but eventually, I gained the weight back. 

Then, my brother-in-law decided to have a destination wedding in Aruba, and we had to get fit again.  I decided to conquer my fear of weights and join a Crossfit gym.

3 Months of Crossfit before vacation 

Benefits of crossfit

  1.  You learn proper form using equipment that you may have been scared to touch before
  2. Your workouts are exactly laid out for you so you know what you’re getting into
  3. You compete against yourself when it comes to how many reps or how much you can do
  4. Smaller “boxes” can basically be like one-on-one training, especially if you go during certain hours.
  5. You will feel like a total badass!

Cost varies but our location was about $100 per month for 2-3 times per week.

Final result wasn’t as obvious in the weight category (I was building big muscles I guess), but I lost a total of 22 inches off my entire body.  

Aruba was last year and I’m entering my 5th month off.  At 36 years old, I feel like I’m gaining weight faster than I can take it off.  I know I’m inconsistent, it’s a flaw I embrace.  I love going out with my husband way more than I love the sweaty, smelly gym, but now it’s time to get back to work.

3 months of Group Classes at the Y before summer

Benefits of group classes

  1. There’s an awesome kid care program
  2. It’s easy to make friends:  The people at the Y are friendly and usually have similar goals
  3. The instructors are always open to discuss your needs and scale programs as needed
  4. You push yourself more than the gym, because you’re keeping up with your peers
  5. There’s a variety of classes and times to choose from.  My schedule includes:
    • Monday:  Les Mills Body Flow (yoga/pilates)
    • Tuesday: Tabata (full body cardio)
    • Wednesday:  Les Mills Body Pump (weights)
    • Thursday:  Les Mills Body Combat (kickboxing)

The cost is another benefit as a single membership is only $40 per month.  We have the family membership which is $80 and my kids and husband often come to yoga with me.

Since I’m not quite 3 months in, I can’t post my results yet.  I’m hoping to lose 15 pounds in 3 months with a gym routine of 4 classes a week combined with my themed meal prep.  Come back to see how I did.

I may not be as consistent as my husband when it comes to working out, but I’m making an effort, and 9 months out of the year isn’t bad.  As women, we have a hard time making time for ourselves and often get overwhelmed thinking of all our responsibilities.  Exercise seems like one of those chores, but when you find a good program it is THE thing that will make everything in your life easier.  Take it from someone who hates exercise!

Do you have an exercise routine you’d like to share?  Comment below and let me know how you stay motivated.


 

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